Are Reality Shows Killing Marriage?

Watching reality shows used to be my guilty pleasure. I couldn’t help but notice, though, how the women started to rise in fame and the higher they went the less respect they had for their husbands. I won’t name anyone specifically, but if you have watched the show, you know who fits the description.

It’s bad enough that these women’s relationships are played out on TV screens for the world to see, but what’s even worse is that they show us the ugly parts of the relationships. I know, I know. Everyone blames the video editing for the reason things come across as so drama-filled, but let’s be real. No one can edit an argument that never happened. No one can edit a woman cursing her husband six ways from Sunday.

I don’t understand why the men take it, for one. And for two, I don’t get why no one has stepped up to show how beautiful marriage can be. Sure, each married couple takes turns showing us positive moments in their storyline, but marriage isn’t just made up of sporadic moments of positivity. It is much more intimate and sacred than what we see. After one bad season, women are throwing their marriages to the wind, undergoing extensive surgery, and emerging as “empowered and liberated women” who make their own money and who call their own shots. Especially in the shows featuring African American casts, the family is being broken up right in front of our faces, and we’re so conditioned to be used to it that we aren’t even outraged enough to do something about it.

I won’t go so far as to say that reality shows are the cause for marriages ending, but I will say putting overly emotional people on camera and allowing the world to give their opinions on every aspect of their lives causes an immense amount of pressure that not many can withstand. As a result, divorce has become a standard.

What do you think about women divorcing after being on reality television?

I, for one, will not stand by and watch women give up on their marriages. We can be successful in our careers, and we can maintain a healthy and happy relationship.

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The One Habit That Kills Confidence

If you spend time comparing yourself to other people, you are spending time thinking negatively about yourself. When we tell ourselves that we aren’t good enough, or that we are not as good as someone else, we are discrediting our own skills and talents and reducing our value to something lesser than what is true. To put it simply, comparison kills confidence and destroys dreams.

I often see people, mostly women, who play down their skills and talents around other people that they believe are “better” than themselves. Whether it is beauty, body image, or talents, they start in talking about what is too big, too dark, too short, etc. and before you know it, they feel bad about themselves, when they thought highly of themselves before. If you see yourself in this description, I have a positive message for you.

You are special. You are talented. You are intelligent. You are skillful. You are unique. Live in it! Stop comparing yourself to others. Own who you are and how unique you are. Someone may be looking up to you in admiration. Someone may love all of the things about you that you are cringing at and criticizing yourself for. Having insecurities is absolutely normal, but those can usually be dissolved if you simply put in the work to get stronger in the areas in which you feel insecure.

What are you insecure about? What can you do to boost your confidence in that area?

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